Sex...

That's right...I said it SEX!
Got your attention?
Everyone in their sane minds favorite pastime :-)
Guys find it as a form of stress reliever-so I've been told- and women like it b.c it makes them feel emotionally more attached to a guy.
But then...there's no strings attached....
That's the topic of sex I bring up today...

Women's biggest 'weapon' to get a guy .... is sex with no strings attached. Now I'm not speaking about laying out like an all you can eat buffet! I'm talking about the flirt...verbal foreplay...the tease....and even to a girl its exciting and gets the ball rolling(haha no pun intended)!
If the sex is good...damn straight the guy will want to come back for more!
Here's the catch of no strings/ friends with benefits...
- no emotions are involved. Now granted...there will be some...gotta at least be able to stand the persons personality,like them just a little. I'm talking about the emotions that come with a serious relationship. Like getting clingy, sappy,starting to text them love notes....basically anything that involves the guy to invest himself in anything more then just sex.

- Drama. "why haven't you called?", "why you lookin at that other girl?" Etc etc...usually drama starts when the girl starts getting emotionally involved when there's nothing to get involved in. This will turn a guy off so bad that not even sex will be good to him anymore.

- Expectations. No strings attached means that there's no expecting the guy to call,text, wanna see you. You really have to let go and just take it as it comes. Sure u can expect some respect from a guy...and there should be...unless its a one night stand. But I'm talking about nagging a guy for attention and reassurance. They'll turn their back and fleeeeeee!

Using sex as a tool to get a guys attention is a dangerous game to play. Guys aren't just a peice of meat and deserve honesty and respect too. And we women are very capable of playing this game and ending up falling in love with them.

Can any real relationship start with FWB? I'd like to think that if both sides balance out and the game is stopped that Its possible. Especially if the friends part of the relationship is very strong. In this case you gotta let the guy initiate it b.c you risk him getting scared and backing off at being serious if he's not interested or ready for it.

It's a nice idea that we as women have control over some things in a relationship. Sex is one...
Most guys can't even really think about a relationship or something serious until after they get intimate....b.c its how they get close too...just in a more non emotional way as women.
Tread carefully if your wanting to play....